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The Power of Self-Esteem

60 Pages · 2002 · 3.16 MB · English

  • The Power of Self-Esteem

    The Power


    Other Books By Nathaniel Branden


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    The Art Of Self-Discovery


    How To Raise Your Self-Esteem


    Judgment Day: My Years With Ayn Rand


    Nathaniel Branden, Ph.D.


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    Health Communications, Inc.


    Deerfield Beach, Florida C O N T E N TS


    Preface ....................................................................... vi


    Introduction .............................................................x.i..


    1. What Is Self-Esteem? ............................................ 1


    e WN oD yheW .e2 d Self-Esteem? .........................12..


    3. Self-Esteem And Achievement ............................. 31


    4. Reflections On The Sources Of Self-Esteem ....... 49


    5. The Power Of Self-Esteem In The Workplace ..... 75


    . 6Recommendatr iFoouFnrs ther Study ...........9..8..... .


    Bibliography ..............................................................79.


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    hguolC enitsirhC yb ngised revoC P R E F A CE


    Self-Esteem


    -pa era ew taht ecneirepxe eht si meetse-fleS


    A Definition


    fo stnemeriuqer eht ot dna efil ot etairporp


    life. More specifically, self-esteem is ...


    Self-esteem is a powerful force within each one of us. 1. Confidence in our ability to think and to


    It encompasses much more than that innate sense of .efil fo segnellahc cisab eht htiw epoc


    — thgirhtrib namuh ruo si ylbamuserp hcihw htrow-fles


    eht ,yppah eb ot thgir ruo ni ecnedifnoC .2


    srehcaet ro stsiparehtohcysp era ohw ew taht kraps taht


    feeling of being worthy, deserving, en-


    eht ylno si kraps tahT .htiw krow ew esoht ni naf ot kees


    titled to assert our needs and wants and


    anteroom to self-esteem.


    .stroffe ruo fo stiurf eht yojne ot


    As you begin to read this book, I want you to know


    precisely what I mean when I say "self-esteem." There are


    many definitions which I consider misleading, less power-


    meetse-fles fI .esoporp I eno eht naht lufesu ssel ro luf


    loses its precise meaning and descends to the level of a Later in this book I will refine and condense this defi-


    esoht yb ylsuoires nekat eb ton yam ti ,drowzzub erem ssucsid I nehw naem I tahw si siht yllaitnesse tub ,noitin


    we are attempting to reach — the very people who need the concept of self-esteem.


    it the most.


    VI Vll I N T R O D U C T I ON


    The Importance Of Self-Esteem


    An Historical Perspective


    A over the world today there is an awakening to the


    tsuj taht ezingocer eW .meetse-fles fo ecnatropmi


    -netop reh ro sih ezilaer ot epoh tonnac gnieb namuh a sa


    tial without healthy self-esteem, neither can a society


    whose members do not value themselves and do not trust


    their minds.


    I want to address the issue, therefore, of what precisely


    "self-esteem" means, and how and why it affects our


    noitadnuof siht no ylnO .seod ti sa yldnuoforp sa sevil


    can we build an understanding of how the principles of


    self-esteem psychology can be applied in psychotherapy,


    and to our schools, organizations and social institutions


    of every kind.


    Recently I found myself reflecting on the day, nearly


    -fles no seton tsrif ym etorw I nehw ,oga sedaced ruof


    esteem. It was 1954 and I was twenty-four years old,


    ydaerla dna ytisrevinU kroY weN ta ygolohcysp gniyduts


    ix X Nathaniel Branden The Power Of Self-Esteem XI


    with a small private practice. The notes were n-soetu qf odnra p sueubs-si eht sserdda ot troffe rojam tsrif yM


    lication but simply to help clarify my thoughts. I wrote: tions self-esteem presented, The Psychology of Self-


    Esteem, was written during the 1960s and published in


    I'm beginning to think that gthnei osgin gwleo nm ossit tiim tpaohrtta ynat sk eoyt tdouorp dna yppah ma I( .9691


    human motivation is self-esteem. Yet no one seems to b)e.gnitnirp ht72 sti ni gnorts


    :si dnatsrednu ot tnaw I tahW .ti tuoba gniklat ro gnitirw sa meetse-fles taht s0891 eht ni ylno saw ti yllarutluC


    (a) What is self-esteem? ni raeppa ot nigeb skoob did ylno toN .erif thguac cipot a


    ?no dneped ti seod tahW )b( dna mret eht ot ecnerefer edam taht srebmun gnisaercni


    (c) Why does its presence or absence make such an enor- elaborated on it to varying extents, but more scientific


    mous difference in people's lives?


    -noc on llits si ereht ,revewoH .gniraeppa nageb seiduts


    (d) How can 1 prove it?


    .snaem mret eht tahw tuoba susnes


    ton dluoc eno ,setatS detinU eht ni ,s0891 etal eht yB


    When I first went to the library in search of informa-


    turn the television on without hearing things like, "When


    tion about self-esteem, almost none was to be found. The


    he didn't show up for our date, my self-esteem was shat-


    indexes of books on psychology did not mention the term.


    tered!" or "How could you let him treat you like that?


    Sigmund Freud had suggested that low "self-regard" was


    Where's your self-esteem?" In a popular historical film


    caused by a child's discovery that he or she could not have


    drama about love and seduction among French aristocracy,


    sexual intercourse with the mother or father, which re-


    we heard the anachronism of one character saying to an-


    ton did I ".gnihton od nac I" :gnileef sselpleh eht ni detlus


    tnemom tsrif eht morf uoy detnaw I" ,ekil gnihtemos rehto


    find this persuasive or illuminating as an explanation.


    I saw you. My self-esteem demanded it."


    Alfred Adler suggested that everyone started out with


    If once the challenge was to gain public understanding


    feelings of inferiority, caused, first, by bringing some phys-


    of the importance of self-esteem, today the danger is that


    ical liability or "organ inferiority" into the world and, sec-


    emoceb seod aedi eht fI .dezilaivirt emoceb thgim aedi eht


    ond, by the fact that everyone else (that is, grown-ups or


    trivialized, the tragedy is that people will then lose the


    ,sdrow rehto nI .regnorts dna reggib saw )sgnilbis redlo


    understanding of its importance.


    erutam demrof yltcefrep nrob ton era ew taht si esruc ruo


    .rehtie ,lufpleh siht dnif ton did I .stluda


    The Importance Of A Precise Definition


    ni tub ,meetse-fles tuoba etorw stsylanaohcysp wef A


    -noc eht fo gnidnatsrednu ym morf tnereffid yrev smret


    rehtona gniyduts erew yeht fi sa tsomla saw ti taht os ,tpec gninaem tcaxe na sah meetse-fles taht gnidnatsrednU


    subject. is important. It would be unwise to dismiss definitions as Xll nednarB leinahtaN meetsE-fleS fO rewoP ehT Xlll


    mere semantics or a concern with exactitude as pedantry. I, who for the time have staked my all on being a psychol-


    The value of a precise definition is that it allows us to ogist, am mortified if others know much more psychology


    ,srehto lla morf ytilaer fo tcepsa ralucitrap a hsiugnitsid -ongi tsessorg eht ni wollaw ot detnetnoc ma I tuB .I naht


    so that we can think about it and work with it with clarity fo esnes on em evig ereht seicneicifed yM .keerG fo ecnar


    sdneped meetse-fles tahw wonk ot hsiw ew fI .sucof dna personal humiliation at all. Had I 'pretensions' to be a


    linguist, it would have been just the reverse .... With no


    on, how to nurture it in our children, support it in schools,


    attempt there can be no failure; with no failure no humil-


    encourage it in organizations, strengthen it in psycho-


    yleritne sdneped dlrow siht ni gnileef-fles ruo oS .noitai


    tahw wonk ot deen ew ,sevlesruo ni ti poleved ro ,ypareht


    on what we back ourselves to be and do. It is determined


    ew tegrat a tih ot ylekilnu era eW .ta gnimia era ew ylesicerp


    -ilaitnetop desoppus ruo ot seitilautca ruo fo oitar eht yb


    cannot see.


    -imoned eht era snoisneterp ruo hcihw fo noitcarf a ;seit


    tpoda ew snaem eht ,eugav si meetse-fles fo aedi ruo fI


    ,suht :sseccus ruo rotaremun eht dna rotan


    -fles rof msaisuhtne ruo fI .sseneugav siht tcelfer lliw


    esteem is not matched by appropriate intellectual rigor,


    Success


    we run the risk not only of failing to produce worthwhile Self-esteem =


    Pretensions


    .dleif eht gnitidercsid fo osla tub ,stluser


    sesoporp dleif eht ni retirw yreve tsomla ,yletanutrofnU Such a fraction may be increased as well by diminishing


    si sihT .snaem meetse-fles tahw fo noitinifed tnereffid a .rotaremun eht gnisaercni yb sa rotanimoned eht


    one of the problems with the research. Different charac-


    The first thing James is telling us about himself is that


    -loc era lla tub ,derusaem gnieb era setubirtta ro scitsiret


    ot serapmoc eh llew woh no meetse-fles sih sesab eh


    lectively called "self-esteem." Let us examine a few repre-


    sih hctam nac esle eno on fI .dleif nesohc sih ni srehto


    sentative definitions to clarify further my own approach.


    expertise, his self-esteem is satisfied. If someone else sur-


    su gnillet si eH .detatsaved si meetse-fles sih ,mih sessap


    ycrem eht ta meetse-fles sih gnicalp si eh esnes a ni taht


    meetsE-fleS enifeD oT tpmettA tseilraE


    of others. In his professional life, this gives him a vested


    mih sevig ti ;sroirefni yb dednuorrus gnieb ni tseretni


    ,semaJ mailliW si ygolohcysp naciremA fo "rehtaf" ehT reason to fear talent rather than welcome, admire, and


    and in his Principles of Psychology, originally published in take pleasure in it. This is not a formula for healthy self-


    enifed ot fo wonk I tpmetta tseilrae eht dnif ew ,0981 .yteixna rof noitpircserp a tub meetse


    self-esteem: -ilov ruo edistuo rotcaf yna ot meetse-fles ruo eit oT


    si ,srehto fo snoitca ro seciohc eht sa hcus ,lortnoc lanoit XIV Nathaniel Branden The Power Of Self-Esteem XV


    sevlesmeht egduj elpoep ynam os tahT .hsiugna etivni ot -ulavni sniamer stnerap fo noitubirtnoc eht no hcraeser


    .ydegart rieht si yaw siht tsuj :setirw eH .elba


    If "self-esteem equals success divided by pretensions/'


    then, as James points out, self-esteem can equally be pro- By self-esteem we refer to the evaluation which the indi-


    -erp s'eno gnirewol ro sseccus s'eno gnisaercni yb detcet ot drager htiw sniatniam yliramotsuc dna sekam laudiv


    himself. It expresses an attitude of approval or disap-


    -on ot seripsa ohw nosrep a taht snaem sihT .snoisnet


    laudividni eht hcihw ot tnetxe eht setacidni dna ,lavorp


    thing, neither in work nor in character, and achieves it


    dna ,lufsseccus ,tnacifingis ,elbapac eb ot flesmih seveileb


    and a person of high accomplishment and high character


    worthyn I. short, self-esteea m spi ersonal judgmenfot


    are equals in self-esteem. I do not believe that this is an


    laudividni eht sedutitta eht ni desserpxe si taht ssenihtrow


    idea at which anyone could have arrived by paying atten-


    .flesmih drawot sdloh


    taht wol os snoitaripsa htiw elpoeP .dlrow laer eht ot noit


    -noc ton era ylsseltroffe dna ylsseldnim meht teem yeht


    Relative to James, this formulation represents a great


    .gnieb-llew lacigolohcysp rieht rof suoucips


    ruo tahw ot yltcerid erom hcum skaeps tI .drawrof pets


    dna sdradnats lanosrep ruo ot pu evil ew llew woH


    experience of self-esteem is. Yet there are questions it


    values (which James unfortunately calls "pretensions")


    .derewsnanu sevael dna sesiar


    fo eulav ehT .meetse-fles ruo no gniraeb a sah ylraelc


    "Capable" of what? All of us are capable in some areas


    James' discussion is that it draws attention to this fact.


    and not in others. Capable relative to whatever we under-


    But it is a fact that cannot properly be understood in a


    -nimid ecnetepmoc etauqeda fo kcal yna tsum nehT ?ekat


    erew seulav dna sdradnats ruo fo tnetnoc eht fi sa ,muucav


    ish self-esteem? I do not think Coopersmith would want


    -uen eht naht devlovni erew erom gnihton dna tnavelerri


    to suggest this, but the implication is left hanging.


    ssel si alumrof sih ,yllaretiL .sesoporp semaJ alumrof lart


    ni tnacifingiS ?naem siht seod tahw — "tnacifingiS"


    a definition of self-esteem than a statement concerning


    what way? Significant in the eyes of others? Which oth-


    how he believes the level of self-esteem is determined,


    ?sdradnats tahw yb tnacifingiS ?sre


    .enoyreve ni tub ,slaudividni etanutrofnu emos ni ton


    "Successful" — does this mean worldly success? Finan-


    htiw sseccuS ?sseccus laicoS ?sseccus reeraC ?sseccus laic


    regard to what? Note he is not saying that self-esteem


    noitubirtnoC s'htimsrepooC yelnatS


    contains the idea that success (in principle) is appropriate;


    gniees fo aedi eht sniatnoc meetse-fles taht gniyas si eh


    -natS si meetse-fles no nettirw skoob tseb eht fo enO oness easluf ccess— fwul hics ihe ntirely diffed rentarnot u-


    ley Coopersmith's The Antecedents of Self-Esteem. His blesome in its implications. xvi Nathaniel Branden The Power Of Self-Esteem xvn


    "Worthy" — of what? Happiness? Money? Love? Any-


    Self-esteem is defined as: Appreciating my own worth


    thing the individual desires? My sense is that Coopersmith


    and importance and having the character to be accountable


    would mean by "worthy" pretty much what I spell out in for myself and to act responsibly toward others.


    my own definition in the preface to this book, but he does


    In this definition, we find the same lack of specificity as


    not say so.


    in the other definitions — "worth and importance" with


    regard to what?


    There is another problem with the Task Force state-


    More Recent Attempts To Define Self-Esteem


    ment: inserting into the definition what is obviously meant


    to be a basic source of healthy self-esteem (that is, being


    Another definition is offered by Richard L. Bednar, M.


    accountable for oneself and acting responsibly toward


    Gawain Wells and Scott R. Peterson in their book Self-


    others). A definition of a psychological state is meant to


    Esteem: Paradoxes and Innovations in Clinical Theory and Practice:


    tell us what a state is, not how one gets there. Did the


    people who offered this definition want us to understand


    Parenthetically, we define self-esteem as a subjective and


    that if we don't act responsibly toward others, we won't


    endearing sense of realistic self-approval. It reflects how


    possess healthy self-esteem? If so, they are probably right,


    the individual views and values the self at the most funda-


    mental levels of psychological experiencing .... Funda- but is that part of the definition — or is it a different


    mentally, then, self-esteem is an enduring and affective issue? (Almost certainly such a definition is influenced by


    sense of personal value based on accurate self-perception. "political" rather than scientific considerations — to


    reassure people that champions of self-esteem are not


    "Approval" — with regard to what? Everything about


    fostering petty, irresponsible "selfishness.")


    the self from physical appearance to actions to intellectual


    Finally there are those in the self-esteem movement


    functioning? We are not told. "Views and values the self"


    who announce that "self-esteem means 'I am capable


    — with regard to what issues or criteria? "An enduring


    and lovable.'"


    and affective sense of personal value" — what does this


    Again we must ask, "'Capable' of what?" I am a great


    mean? On the other hand, what I like in this formulation


    skier, a brilliant lawyer, and a first-rate chef. However, I


    is the observation that genuine self-esteem is reality based.


    don't feel competent to assess independently the moral


    One of the most widely publicized definitions of self-


    values my mother taught me. I feel, Who am I to know?


    esteem is given in Toward A State of Esteem: The Final Report


    In such a case, am I "capable"? Do I have self-esteem?


    of the California Task force To Promote Self and Personal and


    As to "lovable" — yes, feeling lovable is one of the


    Social Responsibility:


    characteristics of healthy self-esteem. So is feeling worthy


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